‘In Two Minds’ – Parts Integration Overview

Inner Conflict

How many times have you wanted to break a habit yet found yourself still doing it?
How many times have you wanted to take an important decision but felt that you are in two minds over it?

Whether it was a bad habit or an important decision it can often be inner conflict you are experiencing that prevented you from acting congruently. At some points in our lives we may have a conflict where a part of us wants to do something while another part of us wants to do the opposite; see the examples below:

  • Chocolate: A part of you wants to be fit and lose weight while another part of you wants to be a chocoholic
  • Exercise: A part of you wants you to become healthier by exercising regularly and another part of you wants you to enjoy relaxing in front of the television
  • Should I stay or should I go?: A part of you wants you to quit your job and start your own business while the other part of you wants you to enjoy the current job’s security

Sometimes you may not be able to break a habit just because a part of you wants it. In this case the more you try to break it the more this part of you holds on to it and so the result can be returning back to the habit without knowing why.

Resolving the Inner Conflict

Even if you managed to ignore the needs of one of your parts you may feel a lack of inner integration, and experience suppressed emotions and unmet desires.

The solution to this dilemma is getting more understanding of those conflicting parts, then working on uniting those parts together with a common goal.

Parts Integration Using NLP

The following are the steps to follow in order to unite conflicting parts with one common goal. Make sure you read all steps before applying the technique.

Note that you aren’t going to resolve the inner conflict on the conscious level but instead you are going to do it on the unconscious level and that’s why the below steps may require some imagination!

Below is the global (big picture) explanation of how Parts Integration works.  The detailed, specific language and process is in your practitioner manual.

Step One, Identify the parts:

Hold both of your hands in front of you so that your palms face the ceiling. Look at the first hand and imagine that you are holding the first part on it and try to imagine the shape of the part. Some people see it as a glowing ball, some see it as a person and others see very different things so just visualize and see what you see. Notice if the part has a weight or if it has a sound. Do the same for the second part. We are using symbols because your subconscious mind thinks using symbols.

  •  Ask the first part about its intention: Look at the first part (using the example of chocolate) and ask it “For what purpose do you want to eat that chocolate?” the answer will be something like “Because I want to enjoy the taste of chocolate” ask it again, “What’s important about enjoying the taste?” the answer will be something like “ it makes me happy”. As you continue to chunk up, you will determine the highest positive intention of the part as a nominalisation.
  • Ask the second part about it’s intention: Go to the second part and ask similar questions to find out the intention of this part. Your main goal is to gain agreement at some level between the two parts by finding a common goal. The more you chunk up the more will you find that the parts can find agreement.
  • Bring them together: Talk to both parts and remind them that they both have the same ultimate intention.  There may be some advice that each part can offer the other part, or insights that are useful.  You may notice that your hands are coming closer and closer until they touch. If your hands touch each other then hold them together firmly as a symbol to your subconscious mind that the conflict has been resolved.  As a result there is less resistance and conflict, more ease and congruity when you say no (or yes) to chocolate, because you have a higher intention and as long as you are going towards that goal, you can feel more at peace with yourself.

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