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Celebrating Unbusy-ness

Having been in Melbourne now for two months, I am sitting in Market Lane, an individual coffee shop with a passion for providing gorgeous coffee that tastes just wonderful – and it doesn’t give my heart palpitations (which is always a result).  And yet…I am feeling guilty.  Hard to identify exactly why, but I think it’s because (and I know this is not true), it appears that the rest of the world is working today…and I’m not.  I have time on my hands to wander around the city, watch the world go by, shop, have coffee etc.  I have bought some coloured gel pens so that I can write (maybe that will make me feel like I am being more industrious).

All of this makes me realise how we become programmed that it is good to be busy, to be productive with our time, to be able to account for our time with what we have produced, and to feel that we haven’t wasted time.   So…I’m now on my second cappuccino (is that bad?).

I keep reframing it for myself by saying it is good to have time to think, to plan, to just ‘be’…but it is more difficult to do than I thought it would be.

I’m writing this post with a turqoise gel pen (why that makes me feel more productive and creative is beyond me too).

When we are too busy, all we want is some time, and yet when we have lots of time, all we want is to be busy again. It’s a paradox. I say ‘we’, I really mean ‘I’.

So, today I have decided to be gloriously un-busy and to not do guilt, as before I know it, this time in sunny Australia will be a distant memory, I will be back at work doing what I love with maybe a different focus, (I’m considering writing a book, have always fantasised about writing one day, and toying with the idea of becoming qualified in Thai Yoga Massage – you see, I can’t help it) – but for now, today, I’m celebrating un-busyness.

I hope you’re having an un-busy day too, and if you’re not, then when can you plan to have a day with absolutely no agenda at all?

Cheers!

Comments (18)

  • Jeremy Hamilton

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    You are quite right – we should be able to celebrate being un-busy – it is a gift we rarely get, and worth a lot more than the things we are busy earning money to pay for!

    I am really enjoying the thought that you, Linda, have the space to be unbusy for all of us. In fact that very thought makes me feel less busy already :-)

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  • Sarah spencer

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    Hi Linda
    Love the post … Totally true that we strive for days not busy then feel guilty when we have the time to mooch around! Strange isn’t it?!
    Happy un-busy day! Am going to aim for be soon, without the guilty bit!
    Sarah x

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  • Nigel

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    Hi Linda,

    Im not too busy to say that I cannot write a comment for you in that I’m to helping other reach their goals and aspirations in life :)

    It’s great to have some time on your hands to reflect, pause and take breath of where you are, so enjoy every moment and every second while you can.

    It’s great to see you keeping up with the Yoga, so well done :) Perhaps see you in Thailand ?, I’m set off back there at the end of the month in time for my next birthday !! :) Thank you and Gary for the wonderful 60th party that you put on for me at yours, will always treasure the golden moments in life.

    Lol Nigel

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  • Jason Economides

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    Hi Linda,

    Wishing you a gloriously unproductive day!

    If you’re bored, watch some of my videos ahead of your return to the UK next year. We’re all missing you and our monthly NLP practice group sessions.

    Warm regards,

    Jason

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  • Sue

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    As we are always saying, Linda “The Universe sends us what we need” !!

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  • Luke

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    After redundancy, I’ve found myself with quite some gaps between short term contacts.
    At first this felt quite stressful, but now when I get time I do my best to enjoy it. It’s really easy for life to disappear in a fog office stress and it’s amazing what gets squashed out of life.
    Having more time means I get to see my parents more, give my dog proper walks in the countryside etc.
    I was used to having relative material luxury, now I have slightly less of that but heaps more time / calm / balance.
    What seemed like impending doom has actually worked out rather well…………………

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    • Linda

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      What a great reframe, Luke, and it sounds like a great outcome!

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  • Shirley Rumble

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    It sounds absolutely wonderful, enjoy your day.

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  • martin

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    Hi you;
    You definitely need to do the yoga massage thing before you come back….I have started the Iyengar yoga which is your fault…you told Jonno to convince me to do it….and I am now hurting all over., so you have to fix it as it as all your fault…..off to Turkey tomorrow for a week of golf and fun….should I feel guilty?? :-)…..just wish I could walk properly!!!
    Mx

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  • Karen

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    Go for it – the chill out I mean :) Glad you’re enjoying yourself xx

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  • Helen Worthy

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    This is a quandary I often have. There are so many phrases that focus on the concept that we only have one life so we must use it well/fully. We then translate these phrases into ‘ using our time well must mean filling every minute with activity’. Having read several items around Mindfullness and following some excellent coaching I have now come to the conclusion that using our time well means ‘being’ happy and having no regrets. This can mean ‘doing’ lots of stuff if that is what makes you happy, but the end aim, I feel, is to be who you want to be and have experiences that add to this feeling of contentment and happiness.

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  • Jacquie Perryman

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    I am living vicariously through you and look forward to your newsletters.
    I don’t know why it is so difficult to find the comfortable balance, both financially and time-wise, between too much work and not enough work!
    As I think I mentioned in one of the yoga training weekends, someone wise once said to me “we are so busy being ‘human doings’ that we forget to be human beings”!
    At least yoga does help us to just ‘be’ for a while…
    x

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  • Elaine Giles

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    Hi Linda, so luvverly to hear from you, glad your enjoying life and new sights and sounds, absorb all these new experiences and as you say before you know it, it will all be beautiful memories!
    Have the family been out to see you yet? Hope Garry is well and not working too hard, we are all well, Jessi just back from South east Asia and Rhianna off to Mexico next week,
    Take care speak soon luv E xxxxxxx

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  • Linda

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    Well I have been up to London on business today, then eating in Mayfair. Drank too much and fell asleep on the train, woke up just before my stop. Back to the office tomorrow, but like you maybe I might be a lady of leisure soon and I am going to enjoy every minute of it, because all too soon life goes back to normal. Have fun enjoy it while you can x

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  • Jan Vallone

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    Hi Linda

    Its lovely to hear about what you’re getting up to (or not) during your stay in OZ. What a fantastic opportunity you’ve been given to experience different culture etc. and enjoy some of that SUN that we (I am)unfortunately are still waiting for!

    Take Care

    Jan
    xx

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  • Jackie Parker

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    Looking forward to a unbusy day together when you get home. J x

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    • Linda

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      That sounds like a plan, will look forward to some girlie time together too L x

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  • Nick

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    HI Linda

    Thanks for making me smile and making my thoughts wander….

    Enjoy your time and stay in the moment!!

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