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Because I’m happy…

Written by Linda on . Posted in Coaching, NLP

Pharrell William’s song ‘Happy’ is extremely popular at the moment and he did a brilliant performance of it at the Oscars too  – have you seen the video?  So many people singing and dancing, you can’t help but feel good as you watch it.  The link to the video is at the end of this blog…

So, what is it that affects our ability to feel happy in the moment? ……. Our beliefs about things, about how life is for us.

And, how do you recognise those beliefs that can drive your life?

Write down the answers to the following questions.  Don’t edit yourself, just write down the first thing that pops into your head.  There are no right and no wrong answers.  Whatever you come up with is absolutely perfect….

Life is……………………………………………………………….

Making money is………………………………………………..

My priority is…………………………………………………….

My body is………………………………………………………..

I love………………………………………………………………

My work is……………………………………………………….

My family is……………………………………………………..

I don’t have enough…………………………………………..

I wish I had more……………………………………………..

Time is……………………………………………………………

 

Done?  Good!  We’ll come back to your answers at the end.

I like to think of beliefs as nothing more than thoughts we have thought over and over and over again, until they seem not thoughts but truth.  They become so deeply embedded we don’t even notice them.  We proceed as though these beliefs are truth and they drive our lives without us knowing it.

This is what Gandhi had to say on the power of beliefs:

‘Your beliefs become your thoughts, 

your thoughts become your words, 

your words become your actions, 

your actions become your habits,

your habits become your values,

your values become your destiny’.

Yes, indeed.  If you believe there will never be enough, there won’t.  If you believe that life is a struggle, then struggle you will …and if you believe in miracles you will see miracles everywhere.  And of course, not all beliefs are bad, some are really healthy, empowering and appropriate and some can be outdated and unhealthy, and limit us – hence they are called Limiting Beliefs.

So, what can we do if we get caught up in habitual,unhealthy thinking?

1.  Do an internal spring clean – it’s like going into the back of your cupboards in your mind and having a good sweep out.  Does this belief support me and the life I want?  If yes, keep it, and if no, consciously change it by retraining your mind by doing the next action points:

2. Tame the frenzy – find ways to change your emotional state, by taking regular exercise, eat well, meditate, do mindfulness practices and yoga….if all else fails, breathe….deeply and slowly.

3. Pay attention! – many people are surprised to find that they are not doing anything for more than 5 – 10 minutes before getting distracted by something different.  See if you can sustain your attention on one thing for half an hour without becoming distracted by Facebook, tweets, emails, cups of tea and the like.

4. Apply the brakes – It’s not only important to be able to focus, but to also know when to switch your attention to something else, especially when you are headed down an unhelpful ‘thought cul-de-sac’.  Switching your attention to something outside of yourself can have a miraculous effect on your emotional state and your beliefs.

And do these actions over and over … and over and over …and over and over, until they become new habits – the habits of happiness!

Now to your answers… are they congruent with the way you want your life?  Congruent beliefs are the foundation of successful and lasting change.  Are there any that are less than that?  It’s good to recognise them if so, as awareness is the first key to change.

Contact Linda if you would like to find out more about any of the following:

And click here to watch the Pharrell Williams video!

 

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Comments (2)

  • Jane Adshead-Grant

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    Dear Linda,
    Thank you for such an inspiring message this morning. I appreciate you sharing your wisdom and wonderful exercise for some spring cleaning of those less helpful beliefs. I so enjoyed the video and thank you for the link. I am grateful again this morning for this wonderful sunshine and bright blue cloudless sky and am about to go for a run before I start my work and now I shall be thinking about those beliefs and seeking to create some new habits for myself.
    I wish you a wonderful day and full of happiness. Jx

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    • Linda

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      Thank you for your message, Jane, and I hope you enjoyed your run in the sunshine!

      Linda x

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